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There’s so much talk about self-care and self-love these days, but what does it mean? This can be different for all of us, but the most important thing is to recognize that no matter your background, discrimination from others, or past mistakes, you are an incredible human that deserves to be celebrated for the unique individual that you are. We’ve rounded up ten picks that will help you do just that.

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Thanks for Waiting by Doree Shafrir

Throughout the years, women have been led to believe that they need to hit certain benchmarks as they age, and if those expectations aren’t met, there must be something wrong with them. That’s exactly how Doree felt and she’s here to debunk those myths. Almost every major life event she experienced seemed to arrive a little later for her than it did for her peers, but she didn’t let it stop her from having a fulfilling life. In this book, she’ll break down the pressures put on women and how to deconstruct those unrealistic ideals to recognize that it is more than okay to go at your own pace.

The Most Powerful Woman in the Room Is You by Lydia Fenet

Many women fail to recognize the power that lies within, and have a habit of over apologizing, accommodating everyone but themselves. What Lydia Fenet has learned along the way as a senior executive at Christie’s, as well as being named one of the Most Influential Women in New York by Gotham Magazine, is that so many women sell themselves short by not being able to present themselves with confidence. She’ll teach you how to present yourself with a stoic poker face and to turn those apologies into negotiations in no time, while stepping into your power one stiletto at a time.

The Gift of Self-Love by Mary Jelkovsky

This book takes an honest look at the obstacles many women face daily. It can be challenging to love yourself just as you are when there is so much pressure to look a certain way that has been shown to us by the media. For most, that look is not attainable, yet we continue to chase this unrealistic idea of beauty, overlooking the greatness that comes from within. This relatable book will offer up advice on boosting self-esteem, confidence, and body positivity. With a workbook-style approach, women of all sizes and shapes will feel empowered after reading through these useful tips.

Strong Women Rising by Tiffany Reese

Although many of us have imagined what we would like our lives to look like, the reality is that even the best-laid plans can get derailed. Day to day life has a habit of getting in the way of our biggest hopes and dreams. However, that’s no reason to veer off course. This book will give you permission to take charge of your life and move ahead with confidence. It includes tons of tips and tricks to help you keep those grand plans and squash any negativity that rears its ugly head. Tiffany uses humor and relatable language that will empower the reader to take charge and crush those goals one at a time.

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A Year of Self-Esteem by Judith Belmont MS

Many people find it easy to give love to others, but when it comes to self-love, the practice is a little – or a lot – more challenging. Instead of getting lost in the big picture, this inspiring book breaks things up into easy bits and pieces. Taking things one day at a time is an approach that allows the reader to ease into a new mindset, letting fresh thoughts and habits set in slowly. You’ll learn to mute that inner critic and replace negative self-talk with positive affirmations. Being mindful about the way you speak to yourself will empower you to start making lasting changes at your own pace. 

The Body Is Not an Apology, Second Edition by Sonya Renee Taylor

For so long, there was an unrealistic body image that many women felt that they had to live up to. The reality is that this vision is imaginary, clouded with filters and unrealistic expectations. Instead of constantly struggling to be something you’re not, Sonya Renee Taylor encourages women to embrace the body that they are in. The human body is amazing and should be celebrated for strength and power, not punished for looking different than what is shown on a magazine cover. She will guide the reader on a path of love, liberation, and learning to truly enjoy the skin you are in with no apologies.

True You by Dr. Kelly Vincent 

The journey to finding your authentic self can be a lot of work, but so worth it. Dr. Kelly Vincent understands that the path to get there can involve peeling back the layers that have been holding you back for years. She breaks things up into 15 sections, providing a simple approach to get started and stay on the path. Through vulnerability and honesty, you’ll discover what your values are, things that you’re passionate about, as well as discovering how personal relationships may be affecting how you live your daily life. As you work through the pages, you’ll slowly start to notice the transformation taking place.

Fierce Self-Compassion by Dr. Kristin Neff

We all know that it’s important to be kind to others, but are we always kind to ourselves? After studying the topic for years, it didn’t take much research for Dr. Kristin to realize that the answer was “no.” Through compassion, acceptance, and courage, we can slowly start to extend that same kindness to ourselves. To do that, it’s really important to create balance in our lives, as well as making time to take care of our energy. Instead of looking for temporary happiness, the goal should be to eliminate suffering by finding long-lasting joy. In this book, you’ll learn to love yourself again, one page at a time.

Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Thawab

The concept of creating boundaries isn’t something new but doing it can be tricky. The pressure to always say “yes” is real, and if you do that too much, you’ll realize that more often than not, you’re saying “no” to yourself. If you need help to break that cycle, this book is for you. Nedra will show you how to take back your power and set healthy boundaries in a way that feels appropriate and less like you’re disappointing someone else. Her techniques will allow the reader to get to the root of the problem and pave the way to honor your own needs first.

Self-Care: A goddess Lifestyle by Briana Scott

Let’s face it, most women want to feel beautiful and there’s nothing wrong with that. However, it’s important to remember that every female is uniquely gorgeous in their own way, and this book encourages the reader to bring out her inner goddess. With 100 tips on cultivating beauty, both inside and out, this self-care guide has a little something for everyone. Brianna encourages you to pamper your skin the same way that you would take care of your body and mind. Everyone deserves to feel good and catering to yourself shouldn’t be a treat – instead, allow it to be a priority.

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